© 2002 Harlan Jacobsen

   Change here is most important and costs nothing 

Revising your dating methods can make the difference.
 

   Could your dating modus operandi use a change?

 

      Your "Modus Operandi" is a Latin expression police use to describe your method of operation.

• Consider that most criminals have a certain method or pattern they follow and predictably will usually do it again. In other words, most people get in a rut and repeat past actions closely including, of course, single members of the species.

   Whatever your dating patterns were in the past, you will probably repeat them. If you're just getting back into single life again, you will probably try to repeat whatever you did before you were married, since that was your last dating experience.

   Maybe you should look at different method of operation: Change your "modus operandi" at least for awhile.. ; Write down your alternative.

• If you have been going steady and dating just one person in the past, consider dating many different ones and make it a policy to operate that way for, say, 90 days.

• Meet as many new people and date many different types. The more interesting ones more than once, of course, and make it plainly understood that for 90 days you are not going steady with anyone.

• At the­ end of the 90 days you can reconsider your method of operation, in light particularly of any exceptional relation developed.

   If you have been dating on a nonexclusive basis, dating several for some time, maybe you are ready to go with a particular special someone on a steady "exclusive" basis.

• Most divorcees are so used to being married and in a monogamous relationship and they have trouble adjusting to the idea of dating several people.

• The tendency is to latch on to the first reasonable "prospect that comes along and not go out and meet any other singles.

• This method of operation is called serial monogamy. Going on an exclusive steady basis until it breaks up; another hurt ?

• A Mini Divorce.

   You should consider dating many, many singles, some on a regular basis but not on an exclusive basis. After a period of time of this, you become a much better judge of what it is you are looking for and of knowing when you have found it.

 Also, to be considered:

• what type of dates are you interested in?

• What days can you go on dates?

•   What days do you save for going out and meeting singles, in addition to dating ones you already know or just met?

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